I have not been very good at posting here and I feel terrible. I had no idea of the many people who check this Blog for info. Every time I miss a day or two it becomes obvious LOL
I am going to try and maintain this Blog on a weekly basis. Of course if a situation comes to light that has to be addressed, I will certainly try and post here. As most of you know I do not believe the WLS thread is place to discuss our lives, or our business. I think it is a place to help others. To try and keep people on the right track and answer questions. While my postings can sometimes be a bit long, please note that I address A LOT of different people and issues. It is never all about ME...That's what this blog is for. It is all about ME, my feelings, my opinions, and all there is to know about my Journey...about the only thing I do not share is my writings, I'm talking poetry, sonnets and short stories. Those are private and personal, although some have been published, for the most part , that is the part of me that is private and comforting and the place I go when I want to escape what is painful and real.
I am working on a new Blog...a Blog that will be about me and my play time. More of an insight as to who I really am....There I will be able to show my work...I believe my work shows my feelings better then any writing. Some call me an "Artist", while that may be true....I just play. I have a world of fantasy and fun...a place in which to dwell where there is no judgement, no harsh words or sadness (although every once in a while a "sad" creation may emerge) For the most part my private world is full of color, brightness and sunshine..It is the KEY to my happiness and my ability to keep smiling in the most painful of times. As soon as it is finished, I will invite you into that world and hope that it will make you feel good , just to visit.
Like I say, I will maintain the WLS Blog, but not on a daily basis.
I belong to many "groups" Volunteers, artist, crafters, quilters and animals.... It can become very overwhelming at times...so I'm try to restructure my life so I can give each group the best of me...even if it means cutting back on the time I dedicate to each one.
I can't play and enjoy the life I've created, if I'm writing all day.
I do LOVE this group and all that follow this Blog...I just need a bit more ME time.
My Hidden Treasure
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Sunday, February 13, 2011
I'm hysterical
No really, yesterday I laughed til I cried. I got 16 e-mails in response to my posting, 10 knew exactly who I was talking about ( although I did not confirm it). I found it odd that out of the 10, 7 felt pity because they were sure the person had "no clue". A narcissist wouldn't...they are perfect, therefore it could not be them. 3 people proclaimed that the person in question seems to think they are better, brighter and set apart from everyone else, believing themselves to be totally unique and different. Has anyone looked up the word narcissist ? Hellooooo
Then we had the 6 e-mails from sweet, caring people wanting to know if it was them. They were apologetic and wanted to discuss it. You all know who you are because I took the time to write back to you...again not mentioning the name of the person.
I will say this...the person in question was not one who wrote...but then again I didn't expect that. I'm sure they feel themselves above even reading this blog...
This is the last I will write about this problem. I hope to be able to solve it or at least try and hold our little community together..I know I'm not alone...there are many of you who do not want to stop attending meetings and are just venting your frustrations.
I want to see everyone happy and getting along. I know in my heart, this persons intentions are honorable...truly they are. I just think the person lacks the skills at this time of life to change who he/she is...but I think in time EVERYONE, no matter what personality disorder they may suffer from, will come to see the writing on the wall. It's time for us to rise above the pettiness and accept things we can't change, but make every effort to change what we can...in a kind way.
Those of you who wrote are adorable...Thank you for the smiles................
Then we had the 6 e-mails from sweet, caring people wanting to know if it was them. They were apologetic and wanted to discuss it. You all know who you are because I took the time to write back to you...again not mentioning the name of the person.
I will say this...the person in question was not one who wrote...but then again I didn't expect that. I'm sure they feel themselves above even reading this blog...
This is the last I will write about this problem. I hope to be able to solve it or at least try and hold our little community together..I know I'm not alone...there are many of you who do not want to stop attending meetings and are just venting your frustrations.
I want to see everyone happy and getting along. I know in my heart, this persons intentions are honorable...truly they are. I just think the person lacks the skills at this time of life to change who he/she is...but I think in time EVERYONE, no matter what personality disorder they may suffer from, will come to see the writing on the wall. It's time for us to rise above the pettiness and accept things we can't change, but make every effort to change what we can...in a kind way.
Those of you who wrote are adorable...Thank you for the smiles................
Saturday, February 12, 2011
The Mutiny
Yes I am a totally happy person, but that doesn't mean things don't get on my nerves.
I have a real problem with Narcissistic personalities. I don't care if it's a real disorder or not. It drives me nuts. It is so unfortunate that these people are so NEEDY, so full of them selves that they find a need to share every aspect of there life over and over and over again.
WE all want to share our experiences on this Journey in hopes of helping someone. I use this Blog for that purpose...to educate, to answer questions and speak from personal experience.
I have strong opinions and I exert these opinions when necessary, with the hope of setting a person back on track or bringing them back to reality. I don't have all the answers, NO ONE does, although they like to give the impression that they do. I have had a very interesting and eventful life that few people know about...Why? Who the hell cares, that's why? I take full responsibility for my short comings...I don't blame them on abuse, an over bearing , manipulative mother or any other factors of my life. I am who I am because of ME...good bad or indifferent..I made me who I am, no one else is to blame and no one else can take the credit.
I am interested in people...I want to know how they are handling the program, if they have any fears that can be set to rest, any questions about long term effects. I do not want to listen to one person drone on and on about his/her personal issues that few people can relate to. My position as a mentor is to listen and to help...I'd like to be able to do that. Am I venting? yes as a matter of fact I am. I have a mutiny on my hands...I have people writing and calling and telling me they are fed up. Not with me, but with one person...just one...that puts themselves above all others and I do not believe, realizes the harm that's being done. people are dropping out of the group because of this person and now those that have always attended are threatening to stop coming because they have had it.
I know a lot of you follow this blog. I don't have the answer. It is difficult to deal with a narcissist because of their self importance. If I explain whats going on I doubt it will mean much. if I tell someone that CAN stop it, I will be a snitch. I haven't quite figured out how to deal with this situation, but I assure you I will find a way to preserve feelings, but get the point across.
Please don't stop attending meetings because of one person...The group needs to be together and needs to help each other. This problem will be solved.....
I have a real problem with Narcissistic personalities. I don't care if it's a real disorder or not. It drives me nuts. It is so unfortunate that these people are so NEEDY, so full of them selves that they find a need to share every aspect of there life over and over and over again.
WE all want to share our experiences on this Journey in hopes of helping someone. I use this Blog for that purpose...to educate, to answer questions and speak from personal experience.
I have strong opinions and I exert these opinions when necessary, with the hope of setting a person back on track or bringing them back to reality. I don't have all the answers, NO ONE does, although they like to give the impression that they do. I have had a very interesting and eventful life that few people know about...Why? Who the hell cares, that's why? I take full responsibility for my short comings...I don't blame them on abuse, an over bearing , manipulative mother or any other factors of my life. I am who I am because of ME...good bad or indifferent..I made me who I am, no one else is to blame and no one else can take the credit.
I am interested in people...I want to know how they are handling the program, if they have any fears that can be set to rest, any questions about long term effects. I do not want to listen to one person drone on and on about his/her personal issues that few people can relate to. My position as a mentor is to listen and to help...I'd like to be able to do that. Am I venting? yes as a matter of fact I am. I have a mutiny on my hands...I have people writing and calling and telling me they are fed up. Not with me, but with one person...just one...that puts themselves above all others and I do not believe, realizes the harm that's being done. people are dropping out of the group because of this person and now those that have always attended are threatening to stop coming because they have had it.
I know a lot of you follow this blog. I don't have the answer. It is difficult to deal with a narcissist because of their self importance. If I explain whats going on I doubt it will mean much. if I tell someone that CAN stop it, I will be a snitch. I haven't quite figured out how to deal with this situation, but I assure you I will find a way to preserve feelings, but get the point across.
Please don't stop attending meetings because of one person...The group needs to be together and needs to help each other. This problem will be solved.....
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Tool of the trade
Sorry I haven't been around for a while but I've been having my head examined.
We all know that surgery is just a tool to help us not only in losing weight but in keeping it off.
However it is not the only tool we should use. In fact, few people succeed on this journey who do not incorporate the use of other tools. Of course I can only speak from facts I know to be true and my own experience , so let me list some of the tools you should also use as help aides.
A Journal: I've kept one for most of my life. Expressing feelings, a thought for the day, and happenings. I have one just for my surgery and all the experiences that followed...most of which I have shared here. If you have never kept a Journal, now would be a good time to start. Those that are obsessive will not only write down everything they eat, but will also include the nutritional info..I don't, I just keep check on what I intake, I also express a feel regarding the success of the day. It always helps to be able to look back and see what you've done right or wrong.
A small plate: Smaller portions tend to look lost on a large plate, giving you the "visual" idea that you are not eating enough. Using a small plate keeps it all in proportion in your minds eye.
A small fork: A friend had a set made for me and I use it to this day. You will find that by picking up a tiny piece of anything on a regular size fork, it looks out of balance. You will tend to eat more as well as faster by using regular size utensils...again it's all visual.
Gem's on my window sill LOL or pennies: Put 8 pennies to the right of your windowsill , as you finish an 8oz glass of water move a penny to the left...It is a good visual indicator as to how you are doing with your fluid intake for the day.
Measure cups and scale: In the beginning you may want to get a visual on what 1/2 cup looks like on that small plate, what 6 oz of protein looks like etc. After a while it all comes naturally...but if you do this for a while you will know you are getting just the right amount of food at each meal.
Protein and protein Bars: there will be days you may need extra protein. having these on handy will assure you that you have what you need and you won't be going off track (they make a good snack as well)
If you don't have a piece of exercise equipment in your house. walking shoes are a good investment..Take a 15 min. walk each day, just to clear your head and get in some exercise...You'll find , in time, that you increase that walk to 30, 45 min. or an hour, just because it feels so good.
There are many tools we learn to use along the way. But these are ones that are helpful to everyone on this Journey. Of course one of the biggest tools you should make use of is the meetings and the on-line help group. Staying connected is so important to success...and that's a FACT.
We are all there to help...sometimes 10 different answers do not help but rather confuse, but you will learn to take what you need and leave the rest.
We all know that surgery is just a tool to help us not only in losing weight but in keeping it off.
However it is not the only tool we should use. In fact, few people succeed on this journey who do not incorporate the use of other tools. Of course I can only speak from facts I know to be true and my own experience , so let me list some of the tools you should also use as help aides.
A Journal: I've kept one for most of my life. Expressing feelings, a thought for the day, and happenings. I have one just for my surgery and all the experiences that followed...most of which I have shared here. If you have never kept a Journal, now would be a good time to start. Those that are obsessive will not only write down everything they eat, but will also include the nutritional info..I don't, I just keep check on what I intake, I also express a feel regarding the success of the day. It always helps to be able to look back and see what you've done right or wrong.
A small plate: Smaller portions tend to look lost on a large plate, giving you the "visual" idea that you are not eating enough. Using a small plate keeps it all in proportion in your minds eye.
A small fork: A friend had a set made for me and I use it to this day. You will find that by picking up a tiny piece of anything on a regular size fork, it looks out of balance. You will tend to eat more as well as faster by using regular size utensils...again it's all visual.
Gem's on my window sill LOL or pennies: Put 8 pennies to the right of your windowsill , as you finish an 8oz glass of water move a penny to the left...It is a good visual indicator as to how you are doing with your fluid intake for the day.
Measure cups and scale: In the beginning you may want to get a visual on what 1/2 cup looks like on that small plate, what 6 oz of protein looks like etc. After a while it all comes naturally...but if you do this for a while you will know you are getting just the right amount of food at each meal.
Protein and protein Bars: there will be days you may need extra protein. having these on handy will assure you that you have what you need and you won't be going off track (they make a good snack as well)
If you don't have a piece of exercise equipment in your house. walking shoes are a good investment..Take a 15 min. walk each day, just to clear your head and get in some exercise...You'll find , in time, that you increase that walk to 30, 45 min. or an hour, just because it feels so good.
There are many tools we learn to use along the way. But these are ones that are helpful to everyone on this Journey. Of course one of the biggest tools you should make use of is the meetings and the on-line help group. Staying connected is so important to success...and that's a FACT.
We are all there to help...sometimes 10 different answers do not help but rather confuse, but you will learn to take what you need and leave the rest.
Monday, January 31, 2011
questions about Pouch test
I stopped Blogging about it because from the e-mail I received I felt that the Newbies were using it as a diet. It is NOT a diet. Some lose weight while others do not...Guess that depends how off track you truly are. The 5 Day Pouch Test (5DPT) is for those of us who have had surgery and may be struggling after a few years out. It is a way to get you back in touch with all the reasons you wanted surgery to begin with and a way you can go back to the beginning to test your tool.
The 5DPT is not for people who do not HAVE a tool to test.
For those of you who want to know more, simply google 5DPT.
To simplify it it:
You have 2 days of liquid (with a little more advantage with the soups)
Day 3 is soft protein
Day 4 firm protein and day 5 solid protein
Again, menu and recipes can be found at the site or look up Kaye Bailey
I tried the emergen-C that came with my book (which you DO NOT have to buy) and I love it. I think it has a great deal to do with my restored energy.
I also tried a lot of the recipes. I make better soup, but the Tuna patties were fabulous...I'm having them again this evening...with home made applesauce. (they taste like potato pancakes)
I will gladly answer any questions about this test. However, I must tell new people that chance are you will NOT lose weight, so don't waste 5 days hoping. Something more drastic is needed...
Slimfast, Cabbage soup diet...what ever has worked in the past for quick weight loss. You MUST lose the weight..that rule is never broken...not for anyone. You also must maintain it until you have surgery. if you go back to my beginning you will have a better idea of what you can look forward to...it's all about attitude :-) Believing in yourself.....
The 5DPT is not for people who do not HAVE a tool to test.
For those of you who want to know more, simply google 5DPT.
To simplify it it:
You have 2 days of liquid (with a little more advantage with the soups)
Day 3 is soft protein
Day 4 firm protein and day 5 solid protein
Again, menu and recipes can be found at the site or look up Kaye Bailey
I tried the emergen-C that came with my book (which you DO NOT have to buy) and I love it. I think it has a great deal to do with my restored energy.
I also tried a lot of the recipes. I make better soup, but the Tuna patties were fabulous...I'm having them again this evening...with home made applesauce. (they taste like potato pancakes)
I will gladly answer any questions about this test. However, I must tell new people that chance are you will NOT lose weight, so don't waste 5 days hoping. Something more drastic is needed...
Slimfast, Cabbage soup diet...what ever has worked in the past for quick weight loss. You MUST lose the weight..that rule is never broken...not for anyone. You also must maintain it until you have surgery. if you go back to my beginning you will have a better idea of what you can look forward to...it's all about attitude :-) Believing in yourself.....
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Bad Kathie....
I certainly have not been very good at keeping you informed of my progress.
I have kept a Journal each day, but by the time the end of the day rolls around, the last thing I want to do is play on the computer.
Yesterday I had to drop off my Jeep at the dealer for a mal functioning heater that wouldn't shut off. While my honey was being fixed I went to see Dr. Mooney about skin removal...I always have a positive out look on surgery but he scared the crap out of Rich, so we will see what happens.
Because I was on solid protein yesterday I was able to go out to eat after the doc. I had chicken breast, broiled with some spices...once that was gone I had little room for anything else.
Then off to Matthew to deliver mail and see his new smile :-) New teeth were his Christmas gift for the next few years...It was great to see his smile back and he looked so happy.
Then I went to pick my Honey up and realized why she ran a muck to begin with, she knew she'd get a bath. There she sat fixed and all beautiful and shiny. It was a very long day...then it was home to tend to the animals that had been out much longer then usual. The goats hate being out in the dark. Even the dear were waiting and poor Diana was staring up at the regular light because the heat lamp wasn't on. It always amazes me how quickly animals get into a habit.
All I can say at this point...since I'm having company for dinner and have to get to preparing things...is that the 5 Day test has a lot of benefits ..ones I will deal with later or tomorrow, right here when I have more time to dedicate to all the pluses...
Have a great day!!!
I have kept a Journal each day, but by the time the end of the day rolls around, the last thing I want to do is play on the computer.
Yesterday I had to drop off my Jeep at the dealer for a mal functioning heater that wouldn't shut off. While my honey was being fixed I went to see Dr. Mooney about skin removal...I always have a positive out look on surgery but he scared the crap out of Rich, so we will see what happens.
Because I was on solid protein yesterday I was able to go out to eat after the doc. I had chicken breast, broiled with some spices...once that was gone I had little room for anything else.
Then off to Matthew to deliver mail and see his new smile :-) New teeth were his Christmas gift for the next few years...It was great to see his smile back and he looked so happy.
Then I went to pick my Honey up and realized why she ran a muck to begin with, she knew she'd get a bath. There she sat fixed and all beautiful and shiny. It was a very long day...then it was home to tend to the animals that had been out much longer then usual. The goats hate being out in the dark. Even the dear were waiting and poor Diana was staring up at the regular light because the heat lamp wasn't on. It always amazes me how quickly animals get into a habit.
All I can say at this point...since I'm having company for dinner and have to get to preparing things...is that the 5 Day test has a lot of benefits ..ones I will deal with later or tomorrow, right here when I have more time to dedicate to all the pluses...
Have a great day!!!
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Day Three
LOL For those of you who wrote to remind me that I didn't post day 3...Thank you. No I didn't forget, just didn't have the time.
Pretty short on time today as well.
Yesterday was soft protein and pretty easy. My energy level has increased to a point that even Rich noticed. All he kept saying last night was "WOW you certainly got a lot accomplished today". Most people think I get a lot done most days, but those who really know me, know I haven't "me" for some time.
I followed the plan. Last night I had one of the recipes: Tuna Patties. OMG!! What a pleasant surprise. They were delicious and it made me feel good knowing they were good for me as well.
This has certainly been a learning experience. WE think we are doing real well, between the extreme weight loss and then maintaining it . I am amazed at how much I have taken for granted, even worse, forgotten.
I am very pleased with this "test" that does , in fact, let me know my tool is working just fine...I'm the one that wasn't working, broken....but I feel fixed now.
I have to be in Delhi in an hour,,,so I better shake my butt. I'll talk more about this later.
Can't believe it is snowing again ugh!
Pretty short on time today as well.
Yesterday was soft protein and pretty easy. My energy level has increased to a point that even Rich noticed. All he kept saying last night was "WOW you certainly got a lot accomplished today". Most people think I get a lot done most days, but those who really know me, know I haven't "me" for some time.
I followed the plan. Last night I had one of the recipes: Tuna Patties. OMG!! What a pleasant surprise. They were delicious and it made me feel good knowing they were good for me as well.
This has certainly been a learning experience. WE think we are doing real well, between the extreme weight loss and then maintaining it . I am amazed at how much I have taken for granted, even worse, forgotten.
I am very pleased with this "test" that does , in fact, let me know my tool is working just fine...I'm the one that wasn't working, broken....but I feel fixed now.
I have to be in Delhi in an hour,,,so I better shake my butt. I'll talk more about this later.
Can't believe it is snowing again ugh!
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