I'm very excited to be going to see Bob today...It's been a year since surgery and he will be checking me out. I think I've done well and plan to continue my quest for a thinner body and healthier me.
Yesterday a friend I hadn't spoken to in years, called to catch up. We go back to grammar school together and she is a sweetheart, but YIKES!!! Her idea of catching up was first to tell me about all the "people we know" that have died. Then she segued into her illness followed by her husbands (who also went to school with us). When I finally got a word in, I tried to tell her nicely, that I really do not enjoy talking about pain, illness and death. Simply because there is nothing I can do about it. She then went on to talk about "Toxic People" and how she tries to eliminate them from her life. I laughed and told her I completely understood given our conversation thus far.... It took her a moment LOL We parted, once again promising to "call more often and keep in touch" we won't..It will be another few years, but I will get a Christmas card from her, with a letter in all probability telling me more bad news LOL.....
I always tell people that no matter what the conversation, I always walk away with something...Even in the doom and gloom of my conversation with my dear friend I walked away with a new expression..."Toxic People". She started me thinking and I realized just how many people like that have crossed my path. I also realized that I try and help the ones I truly care about and distance myself from the ones I don't. It's how I have managed to survive and didn't even know it.
Dwelling on the cup being half empty, doesn't change the fact that it is. Life is full of options, either fill the damn cup or view it as being half full and be happy it ain't bone dry!!! Life doesn't have to be as hard as we make it sometimes. I think dwelling on the negative aspects of life just make us more negative. Isn't it easier to think of the positives and run with THEM?
I have been watching RNY surgeries over this past year, getting to know some of the people and one thing I have seen ,is that those entering into this surgery KNOWING they were going to do well...Did.
For those of you thinking about this surgery. Know that it isn't a walk in the park, but it is hardly a climb up Mt. Everest. Go to a well educated program..listen, learn...read all you can and for Gods sake don't match apples to oranges. RNY is not BANDING...research both and ask yourself which one fits into your life style. You DO NOT have to take hand fulls of supplement's with RNY (a common misunderstanding) You do have to go back and forth for fills until they find your "sweet spot" with the Band...Most people who are not "Dr. People" shy away from the band for that reason, we just don't have the time. That's not to say RNY is perfect, when it goes wrong it goes terribly wrong...but it is not the RISK people claim it to be...not anymore with the new technology. Risk statistic's need to be followed to the source...in most cases the factors are not totally true. They pick a time frame and even if you die in a car crash it will be considered surgery related. Don't believe me? Check it out...It's one of the reasons I question statistics (even when I took a statistics class lol) This is a wonderful life changing situation...both surgeries are "Tools" that work for the right people. Are you one of them? That is totally up to you...
Toxic people will bring you down, tell you horror stories and try to talk you out of it. Question their motives, especially if they haven't had the surgery themselves....and then do what your heart tells you is the right thing to do.
